What I need to hear today involves both work and domestic communication. On my resume I state that I am an excellent communicator both written and oral. But am I truly?
As a analytical thinker who also excels at right brain thinking, I often confound my audience. (Many are currently wondering what is so wonderful about the right brain). I tend to use obscure analogies, flex my vocabulary and over reach my audience.
Each of us can briefly describe a time when our body language sent the wrong message. I cross my arms because I am a large-ish self-conscious woman. It actually helps me concentrate on you rather than my insecurities. I sometimes record myself to see if there is an edge to my voice. The stress I feel often leaks out at inappropriate times…oops.
I believe individuals feel engaged when we speak. However, in our offices we have a tendency to snag someone and begin a new conversation while mid-sentence with another. What a horrible message to send! “I’m done with you. On to the next person.”
Or worse at home, I call, ‘hearing through your megaphone.’ I know megaphones are to speak into, but follow this:
Our insecurities transform the words, body language and tone.
Therefore, if I say to my youngest, “You are grounded for getting a C.” She fully hears, “I am in trouble for being stupid and she must not like me.” Honest, this happened last night. She has a C because she chose to watch Netflix instead of reading and cannot take her Accelerated Reading tests. She is grounded for not trying her hardest, not to attack her.
I think I shall work toward a new standard in communication at home and professionally. Communication skills are never trivial, never dated and are extremely essential to relationships.
What experiences can you share with us, reader? Is there a technique you might add?